The Fallen: Beauty or Mind?

The Fallen
By Seether

She's wearin' dresses on the borderline
(lookin good)
Or making senses that were lost in time
(make amends)
This liberation is the one they'll love for ages (hey man I see them comin' again)
Just cut those dresses make you look so fine (you're a ten)
Put on that shirt and you'll look so divine
(i'm impressed)
This generation won't forgive those signs of aging (hey man I see them comin' again)
I got my ticket for the next makeover
I got my ticket for a stolen ride

I believe, I believe
I believe in the fallen
I believe, I believe
I believe in the callin'

They got injections for those facial lines (make amends)
Break out the scalpel keep the nose defined
(look again)
A crucifixion of the love we've known for ages (hey man i see them comin' again)
You're much too pretty you don't need your mind (just pretend)
Just bat them eyelids get your heart's desires
A resurrection of the shallow and the vapid
(hey man I see them comin')

I got my ticket for the next makeover
I lost my taste for this I'll keep my pride
I believe, I believe
I believe in the fallen
I believe, I believe
I believe in the callin'

Reject

I got my ticket for the next makeover
I lost my taste for this, I'll keep my pride
I believe, I believe
I believe in the fallen
I believe, I believe
I believe in the callin'
I believe in the callin'

How many people get their worth from how the look, dressing to draw attention?

Image from The Daily Andy

I've seen girls on campus in short skirts or shorts and skimpy blouses.  Some do wear them because they find them comfortable or because it's warm out (70s F after a winter of below zero) and those clothes are cooler.  But some wear them because they want the looks, they want the attention.  But is that the attention they want?  I always wonder when girls dress this way and then get mad when a guy whistles or stares.  Not that he should, but the guys that do are the ones you're going to get the attention of if you dress that way.

I like wearing short skirts and tight shirts, though I've never worn them in public.  I wear them because they're cute.  I wear them for me.  When I'm out and about, I dress modestly and plainly.  Because I'm pious?  No, because I like to blend in and not be noticed.  It's more a result of being shy than being "morally superior".

Should a girl be allowed to dress that way?  It depends.

Image from Black Celebrity Kids

I have big issues with girls under a certain age dressing that way.  A twelve year old shouldn't be dressing "sexy".  And dressing in a sexual way in K-12 classrooms shouldn't be allowed, I don't think.  A girl, or guy for that matter, should be allowed to dress in a way that flatters her and expresses who she is, but there should be boundaries and rules setting limits on it in a K-12 context.  Outside of school, I think there's a point where the teenager should be allowed to make their own decisions, as long as it isn't illegal.  But this age isn't necessarily static.  It is different for different teenagers, for different families, for different cultures.

Image from HiLite Online

In a work setting, with the obvious exceptions of restaurants like Hooter's, strip clubs, etc., how you dress shouldn't be sexual, I don't think, especially in an office setting.  I honestly think dressing in a provocative manner is as much sexual harassment as having naked pictures hung up.  The workplace isn't a place for the sexual, unless the workplace is sexual.

But social settings are a different story.  You should be allowed to dress how you want in a social setting, as long as it's legal.  And I am against decency laws.  I believe laws should be used to keep people from hurting each other, not to control.  It's fine to make it illegal to show nipples, pubic hair, penises, vaginas, because these shouldn't be public, but decency laws should be kept to a minimum.  People need to be allowed to make their own decisions.  But they need to own those decisions.  "Each person is responsible for their own actions."  If you show lots of cleavage, don't be surprised and offended if people stare.  They are responsible for their actions, too, and should treat you with respect, but if you want respect, you should give them a reason to respect you.  Make your own choices, but own them.

You're much too pretty you don't need your mind (just pretend)
Just bat them eyelids get your heart's desires
A resurrection of the shallow and the vapid

Image from Seduction-Methods.com

Many girls hide their other attributes to attract attention with just their looks.  They think a man, or woman, wants something pretty to look at, something to f**k, not talk to.  But do you want to be just a trophy or just a sex toy, or do you want to be a partner?  You make the choice.  If all you want is a night of sex with no commitment, or all you want is a f**k buddy, there is nothing wrong with that, nothing wrong with you.  Just decide what you want and make your decisions accordingly.  And own those decisions.

~Bethany